I'm back! Did you miss me?
I reflect on all the adventures I have had in internet dating over the years and lol about it until I pee my pants. I think, "I should have been blogging all along. This stuff epic, legit and entertaining." I love to make people laugh, you know?
For the next few months I am just going to blah, blah, blah about my daily adventures. It's for real and I need to expose a slice of it to just verify to the world that I am who I say I am.
My last adventure was two weeks ago. I usually have one to three adventures a week, but I have been down with a migraine. I'm nursing myself back to life, so the stories will be picking up again next week.
OK, so Skip thought he was a sugardaddy and he wanted to meet me. I knew from the start that he was fake. He listed his income at under 200K, so it was obvious that he was just some middle class loser who was desperately wanting to buy a girlfriend. I am not for sale, but he didn't have to know that.
Before the date I told him that I was going to wear a very sexy, low-cut blouse just for him. I've been a hustler my whole life and I know how this game is played. This keeps the losers from standing you up. I wasn't going to leave my apartment unless I was assured the free dinner.
We had dinner and then went to the casino. The date had lasted many long, boring hours, so by 1am I was ready to dis Skip. All he could do was bitch because I had worn a sweater over my sexy blouse. It was cold. Fall weather dictates a sweater, buttoned up.
To make matters worse, he kept touching me, holding my hand, kissing me - on the lips! This was our first date! He was no gentleman. A lady always makes the first move. I never kiss on a first date. This kind of behavior is interpretted as sexual molestation. Desperate guys suck.
He was travelling so I suggested a few local hotels. Unfortunately, I had made the mistake of bringing him back to my place after the casino. Never allow random men into your home! Even if sparks are flying and you know he is your future husband. If that is the case, he will still be around next month and you can invite him over after you have met in public a few times.
So, he asks if he can stay over. It was 2am. Whatever. Stay. Good dog. Down. Down, boy! I said, down!
I said he could sleep on my living room floor (like a homeless person! For real - I live across the street from the homeless shelter and my friends know that if you get kicked out of the shelter they can come sleep on my floor).
He laid down on the floor, then asked me to come cuddle with him. BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!
Again, I say - BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! That was the most ridiculous thing I had heard in years. Now you know why I like internet dating so much!
I said, "Good Night!" and went to my room.
In our conversations during our date I had told him that I would build him a web site if he bought a digital camera for me. That is the deal of the century, and he knew it. A site would have normally cost him at least a grand.
So, the next morning he says that he wanted to buy me a camera. We went to Best Buy and now I have the little Nikon that I've always wanted.
As for building him a web site: BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! Again, I say: BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! and now you know why I like internet dating so much!
.....providing insight based on Holistic Healing practices for Daily Interactions and Relationships.
Saturday, October 30, 2010
Sunday, July 18, 2010
How To Get Rid Of An Internet Pimp In Seven Days
I've been using the internet since 1989. I was a senior in high school and my art teacher used his computer for email purposes. The technology to send pictures was being developed at the time. He took a very pixalated shot of me and two of my bffs, Bianka and Erika, and sent it to someone. I guess you could say that we are the godmothers of all the webcam girls. Pretty cool, no?
My whole life I have been asked, "Why aren't you a famous actress?" The answer to that is, "I do not seek fame for being an artist."
This whole blog, which I am turning into a book, has just been a big act. I had to set the stage for what this is really all about. Beyond being an actress, I am an incredible teacher. The purpose of this has been to educate those who are not aware of some of the internet dangers that exist.
Beyond that, there is still an even higher purpose. It is my mission in life to get the founder of Craigslist thrown in jail for being a pimp. His greedy occupation is oppressing rape and incest survivors, and that is about to stop through my efforts.
That stupid pimp can also be held accountable for murder. It is despicable that his onine red light district continues to remain as is when so many women's lives are being destroyed through his greed. I'm done with him.
I have started making videos over at youtube. My screen name there is TheSenoritaBonita. You can just put it into the search and all of my videos appear in a list.
You can also put "craigslist sux" into the search and my video about this loser piece of white trash is the first one on the list.
I am working towards figuring out how to create a group over at Facebook. I will use these two very awesome sites to build awareness for this cause so that when this book is published it will be an instant bestseller.
Then, Oprah can have me on her show because Tyra's show isn't quite serious enough for me. And besides, Tyra is into busting the victims instead of the pimps and the johns. I don't play the victim, so why would I blame the victim?
AI am not going to shut up until Mr. Craig Slist is behind bars where he belongs. If I die before that happens, at least I will not have lived my life in vain. I will fight for the rights of rape and incest survivors until I see my angel, Nicholas, once again. That's all that I can do with my life, now that he is gone.
My whole life I have been asked, "Why aren't you a famous actress?" The answer to that is, "I do not seek fame for being an artist."
This whole blog, which I am turning into a book, has just been a big act. I had to set the stage for what this is really all about. Beyond being an actress, I am an incredible teacher. The purpose of this has been to educate those who are not aware of some of the internet dangers that exist.
Beyond that, there is still an even higher purpose. It is my mission in life to get the founder of Craigslist thrown in jail for being a pimp. His greedy occupation is oppressing rape and incest survivors, and that is about to stop through my efforts.
That stupid pimp can also be held accountable for murder. It is despicable that his onine red light district continues to remain as is when so many women's lives are being destroyed through his greed. I'm done with him.
I have started making videos over at youtube. My screen name there is TheSenoritaBonita. You can just put it into the search and all of my videos appear in a list.
You can also put "craigslist sux" into the search and my video about this loser piece of white trash is the first one on the list.
I am working towards figuring out how to create a group over at Facebook. I will use these two very awesome sites to build awareness for this cause so that when this book is published it will be an instant bestseller.
Then, Oprah can have me on her show because Tyra's show isn't quite serious enough for me. And besides, Tyra is into busting the victims instead of the pimps and the johns. I don't play the victim, so why would I blame the victim?
AI am not going to shut up until Mr. Craig Slist is behind bars where he belongs. If I die before that happens, at least I will not have lived my life in vain. I will fight for the rights of rape and incest survivors until I see my angel, Nicholas, once again. That's all that I can do with my life, now that he is gone.
Saturday, July 17, 2010
Code Red Light District
Our pathetic American culture has turned a couple words that are dear to my heart into code words for prostitution. The first word is "massage" and the other one is "sugardaddy".
This really upsets me. I am a holistic healer, which makes me a massage therapist. I am not a prostitute. I make this very clear on my web site:
http://www.bonnie-angelstouch.webs.com/
It is in the section entitled "Our Services". I have been referring the gentleman that I meet online to my site and they still act like stupid johns. I really think that working as an undercover agent might actually be my calling.
All I have been doing online is meeting stupid johns. They need to stop wasting my time. I need to get paid to bust them. Free dinner AND a paycheck - that's the life for me.
The love of my life died in my arms twenty-one months ago. He was eleven years older and he took care of me. He was a real sugar daddy.
My sweetheart, Nicholas, only made $300 a week, so being a sugar daddy obviously has nothing to do with money.
I am the most righteous and decent woman who has ever walked this planet. Being a holistic healer is my gift for God and I am only attracted to real gentlemen. I guess, in this country, that makes me a prostitute, because the internet (particularly Craigslist) has turned the whole nation into a red light district.
Some of my closest and dearest friends are homosexual and everyone who knows me knows that I love everyone, so this has nothing to do with being prejudice and bashing on someone for their preferences.
The guy who started Craigslist, Craig Whatever, is gay. That's fine, but a lot of gay guys are actually women haters. Mr. Craig Slist is one of them. He probably has something against his mother. Maybe she was a prostitute. I really don't know.
Mr. Craig has a section on his site called "adult services". The ladies pay to post ads. Mr. Craig is a pimp. I pray that one day they throw that stupid loser in jail. They caught up with Heidi Fleiss. It's only a matter of time.
This really upsets me. I am a holistic healer, which makes me a massage therapist. I am not a prostitute. I make this very clear on my web site:
http://www.bonnie-angelstouch.webs.com/
It is in the section entitled "Our Services". I have been referring the gentleman that I meet online to my site and they still act like stupid johns. I really think that working as an undercover agent might actually be my calling.
All I have been doing online is meeting stupid johns. They need to stop wasting my time. I need to get paid to bust them. Free dinner AND a paycheck - that's the life for me.
The love of my life died in my arms twenty-one months ago. He was eleven years older and he took care of me. He was a real sugar daddy.
My sweetheart, Nicholas, only made $300 a week, so being a sugar daddy obviously has nothing to do with money.
I am the most righteous and decent woman who has ever walked this planet. Being a holistic healer is my gift for God and I am only attracted to real gentlemen. I guess, in this country, that makes me a prostitute, because the internet (particularly Craigslist) has turned the whole nation into a red light district.
Some of my closest and dearest friends are homosexual and everyone who knows me knows that I love everyone, so this has nothing to do with being prejudice and bashing on someone for their preferences.
The guy who started Craigslist, Craig Whatever, is gay. That's fine, but a lot of gay guys are actually women haters. Mr. Craig Slist is one of them. He probably has something against his mother. Maybe she was a prostitute. I really don't know.
Mr. Craig has a section on his site called "adult services". The ladies pay to post ads. Mr. Craig is a pimp. I pray that one day they throw that stupid loser in jail. They caught up with Heidi Fleiss. It's only a matter of time.
STOP WHAT YOU ARE DOING! PUT YOUR HANDS AGAINST THE WALL!
I have been sending flirty emails to Mr. Baltimore. He has just been ignoring them. I just went there to send another one and I get a notice saying that I have been blocked from communicating with him.
I also got an email at my yahoo address today, around the same time: Train To Be A Police Officer Online.
This truely explains everything. Mr. Baltimore is a cop. The reason that Tyra promotes that site on her show is to bust people for prostitution. Her guests are all just actors. The site she promotes is a front.
I am currently fighting a custody battle for my children. I lost them because I was naive to the whole internet dating scene. I really hope to educate everyone with my experiences so that innocent children are not torn for their innocent mother's breast ever again.
I am completely offended by how America busts the rape victims, instead of taking the stupid johns down. Maybe I should look into that online offer to become a cop, because I am female and I can make a career out of taking down these stupid johns. Hmmmmm...............
That is something for me to consider. I'm just not sure I can belong to a scene like that, but maybe. Right now, I'm kind of focused on fighting to get my kids back and writing this book.
But maybe becoming a cop will help in my battle for my children. I never thought about that approach. Hmmmmm............
I also got an email at my yahoo address today, around the same time: Train To Be A Police Officer Online.
This truely explains everything. Mr. Baltimore is a cop. The reason that Tyra promotes that site on her show is to bust people for prostitution. Her guests are all just actors. The site she promotes is a front.
I am currently fighting a custody battle for my children. I lost them because I was naive to the whole internet dating scene. I really hope to educate everyone with my experiences so that innocent children are not torn for their innocent mother's breast ever again.
I am completely offended by how America busts the rape victims, instead of taking the stupid johns down. Maybe I should look into that online offer to become a cop, because I am female and I can make a career out of taking down these stupid johns. Hmmmmm...............
That is something for me to consider. I'm just not sure I can belong to a scene like that, but maybe. Right now, I'm kind of focused on fighting to get my kids back and writing this book.
But maybe becoming a cop will help in my battle for my children. I never thought about that approach. Hmmmmm............
Friday, July 16, 2010
John.N.Hooker Sites
I just changed my profile at the one sugar daddy site I am on to make it clear that I am not a hooker and that I do not date johns. Every sentence that mentioned "hooker" or "john" was deleted before it was published.
That is the site that does not verify the sugar daddies. That is the site where I keep meeting johns. That site is obviously a John.N.Hooker site.
Do not waste your time with a site that does not verify the sugar daddies information. These are just online escort services. You run the risk of losing your children if you make a profile there.
I am considering taking my profile off that site completely. I'm not going to say that it was a waste of time for me because it is what inspired me to write this book. Now that I have learned all that I can from it, that it is just another John.N.Hooker site, I have no purpose to be there.
That is the site that does not verify the sugar daddies. That is the site where I keep meeting johns. That site is obviously a John.N.Hooker site.
Do not waste your time with a site that does not verify the sugar daddies information. These are just online escort services. You run the risk of losing your children if you make a profile there.
I am considering taking my profile off that site completely. I'm not going to say that it was a waste of time for me because it is what inspired me to write this book. Now that I have learned all that I can from it, that it is just another John.N.Hooker site, I have no purpose to be there.
There Ain't Nothing That Money Can't Buy
Here's how to snag a sugar daddy in seven days - Buy one!
I signed up for this thing called a "webinar" the other day, but after I downloaded the software I could not get access to it. It was obviously a scam, but it turned out to be a good one. A few hours later I got a text telling me that I had won a $200 gift card. It gave me an 800 number to call to claim my prize.
I called the number. Apparently, because I was one of the first 20 callers from the state of Texas, I actually ended up winning over $1400 in gift cards. I also won access to claim my "lost money".
I really don't know much about the "lost money" that is owed to me, but I am assuming that it is going to come to about a billion dollars. I will donate most of it to charity and just keep about a million for myself.
Then, I am going to contact this one super hottie sugar daddy from Baltimore. I don't know if he is actually a real sugar daddy, but I do know that his information has been verified by the site we are hanging out on.
That is who I am turning all my attention to, this one gentleman. The rest are just lame-o liars. There is a site, the one where you post your (budget/allowance) price. Posting your price gives the other members an idea about what your true intentions are.
The site also gives the sugar daddies the option of having their information verified, for the small fee of $1000. Anyone who is not willing to pay this fee is obviously not willing to be a real sugar daddy.
There are less than 10 verified sugar daddies on this site. So, I checked them all out and the Baltimore man is the one for me.
Now I just have to wait for my lost money to arrive. Then I can contact Mr. Baltimore and offer him a million dollars for the priveledge of being his sugar baby. Hopefully, he'll say, "That sounds superb, my lovely lady. May I now take you to Karmic Connection and buy you some soy candles?"
I signed up for this thing called a "webinar" the other day, but after I downloaded the software I could not get access to it. It was obviously a scam, but it turned out to be a good one. A few hours later I got a text telling me that I had won a $200 gift card. It gave me an 800 number to call to claim my prize.
I called the number. Apparently, because I was one of the first 20 callers from the state of Texas, I actually ended up winning over $1400 in gift cards. I also won access to claim my "lost money".
I really don't know much about the "lost money" that is owed to me, but I am assuming that it is going to come to about a billion dollars. I will donate most of it to charity and just keep about a million for myself.
Then, I am going to contact this one super hottie sugar daddy from Baltimore. I don't know if he is actually a real sugar daddy, but I do know that his information has been verified by the site we are hanging out on.
That is who I am turning all my attention to, this one gentleman. The rest are just lame-o liars. There is a site, the one where you post your (budget/allowance) price. Posting your price gives the other members an idea about what your true intentions are.
The site also gives the sugar daddies the option of having their information verified, for the small fee of $1000. Anyone who is not willing to pay this fee is obviously not willing to be a real sugar daddy.
There are less than 10 verified sugar daddies on this site. So, I checked them all out and the Baltimore man is the one for me.
Now I just have to wait for my lost money to arrive. Then I can contact Mr. Baltimore and offer him a million dollars for the priveledge of being his sugar baby. Hopefully, he'll say, "That sounds superb, my lovely lady. May I now take you to Karmic Connection and buy you some soy candles?"
Thursday, July 15, 2010
How To REALLY Snag A SugarDaddy In Seven Days
Forget all the advice I have given you. Forget everything about building a web site, maybe a blog, posting profiles, sending out "Hey, Daddy"s......forget it all. It really doesn't work that way. I just wanted to share all of that information about my experiences so you can see that I really did try it that way and it didn't work.
The problem with this whole technique is that everyone is just a stupid liar. They lie about their age, their income, their careers, where they live, what car they drive.....they lie about everything. They are all just stupid johns pretending to be sugar daddies.
The really sad thing about all of this is that most of them do not even realize that they are johns. They actually think that they are sugar daddies. They make less than 200K a year and they actually think they have what it takes to be a sugar daddy.
They believe that a sugar daddy is a gentleman who pays for sex. They are just freakin' stupid.
A sugar daddy would never pay for sex. There are many real sugar daddies out there who do not even have sex with their babies. That is not what being a sugar daddy is all about.
Being a sugar daddy is all about being charitable. Charity is the highest form of love there is. Being a sugar daddy is all about the love. That's what a sugar daddy is - the best lover you will ever find.
I think of it this way. If I made 20K a month, what would I do? I would donate at least 5K to my favorite charity. Animals, the homeless, artists/musicians/writers.....those are some examples of my favorite charities. And I would donate it without expecting anything in return. That's what charity/love is all about.
Now let's say I am a rich gentleman and I come across a lovely lady who works as a zookeeper. She lives in a trailer and is writing a book about yoga. - Score! Take care of this babe! Give her 5K a month and she can put a portion of it towards the zoo, go rent a nice four bedroom house and take the steps to get her book published.
A sugar daddy can donate to all of his favorite charities just by having a sugar baby. And you better believe this lovely lady will fall madly in love with the gentleman for being so kind and generous. - Score, again!
So, now the question is - How do you REALLY snag a sugar daddy in seven days? Stay tuned. The truth is soon to be revealed.
The problem with this whole technique is that everyone is just a stupid liar. They lie about their age, their income, their careers, where they live, what car they drive.....they lie about everything. They are all just stupid johns pretending to be sugar daddies.
The really sad thing about all of this is that most of them do not even realize that they are johns. They actually think that they are sugar daddies. They make less than 200K a year and they actually think they have what it takes to be a sugar daddy.
They believe that a sugar daddy is a gentleman who pays for sex. They are just freakin' stupid.
A sugar daddy would never pay for sex. There are many real sugar daddies out there who do not even have sex with their babies. That is not what being a sugar daddy is all about.
Being a sugar daddy is all about being charitable. Charity is the highest form of love there is. Being a sugar daddy is all about the love. That's what a sugar daddy is - the best lover you will ever find.
I think of it this way. If I made 20K a month, what would I do? I would donate at least 5K to my favorite charity. Animals, the homeless, artists/musicians/writers.....those are some examples of my favorite charities. And I would donate it without expecting anything in return. That's what charity/love is all about.
Now let's say I am a rich gentleman and I come across a lovely lady who works as a zookeeper. She lives in a trailer and is writing a book about yoga. - Score! Take care of this babe! Give her 5K a month and she can put a portion of it towards the zoo, go rent a nice four bedroom house and take the steps to get her book published.
A sugar daddy can donate to all of his favorite charities just by having a sugar baby. And you better believe this lovely lady will fall madly in love with the gentleman for being so kind and generous. - Score, again!
So, now the question is - How do you REALLY snag a sugar daddy in seven days? Stay tuned. The truth is soon to be revealed.
This Really Stupid John
This really stupid john has been annoying me all week. I finally got rid of him today. Here's how that went -
He smoozed me into going out with him on Friday. I even cancelled a dinner invitation I had gotten from a friend at church. I was really not interested in him from the start. He had an extremely pushy personality. I figured that the only way to get rid of him was to go out with him. There are just some people who refuse to take "NO!" for an answer. He would still be annoying me right now if I hadn't gone out with him. Sometimes a woman's gotta do what a woman's gotta do.
So, we went out and he just bored me. I guess that made him think that there was chemistry between us.
We went to an awesome wild cat refuge - www.bigcatcare.org That was the whole deal with this date. I got to check out a really wonderful new place. And now I know about it and I can share information about it with my friends.
That's what I did the next day. I was hanging out with my friend and his son and I thought this would be a cool place to take them. I even sent a text to the john to ask for directions. He sent a text back - 1st dirt road on the right, that's the best i can do
What a jerk! So I looked it up on the internet and we spent a nice afternoon there, taking pictures and donating to the cause.
Then I get a text on Sunday - We still gonna hang out tonight for awhile?
I said - No, thanks
The texts went back and forth for awhile. Like I said, this stupid john could not take "NO!" for an answer. I got rid of him by saying - Next Sunday, k?
The next day he sent me a request, asking me to shave my stuff and send him a picture my most private and sacred body part, completely exposed. Of course, I said - "NO!" Jeez, this dude's a stupid dildo!
Today, Thursday, I saw him over at the site where we met. I sent him an email - I'm so glad to see you here. It's good that you realize that we have nothing to offer each other. Good luck with seeking the girl of your dreams.
He sent me a text - Why do you keep blowing me off? You're so mean!
I sent one back - It's not mean for a woman to demand respect. This is why you keep ending up divorced. Your exes were just mean, right? BAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!
It took him awhile, but he came back with - You should be a little more specific next time. (I guess he was talking about my profile.)
So, I texted him back - I sent you a link to my site. How much more specific can I be?
And the grand finale! He sends his last text to me - Leave me alone! Lose my number.
Of course, I had to get in the last word. I said - Ditto
Hallelujah! and Praise the Lord! Salvation is finally mine.
He smoozed me into going out with him on Friday. I even cancelled a dinner invitation I had gotten from a friend at church. I was really not interested in him from the start. He had an extremely pushy personality. I figured that the only way to get rid of him was to go out with him. There are just some people who refuse to take "NO!" for an answer. He would still be annoying me right now if I hadn't gone out with him. Sometimes a woman's gotta do what a woman's gotta do.
So, we went out and he just bored me. I guess that made him think that there was chemistry between us.
We went to an awesome wild cat refuge - www.bigcatcare.org That was the whole deal with this date. I got to check out a really wonderful new place. And now I know about it and I can share information about it with my friends.
That's what I did the next day. I was hanging out with my friend and his son and I thought this would be a cool place to take them. I even sent a text to the john to ask for directions. He sent a text back - 1st dirt road on the right, that's the best i can do
What a jerk! So I looked it up on the internet and we spent a nice afternoon there, taking pictures and donating to the cause.
Then I get a text on Sunday - We still gonna hang out tonight for awhile?
I said - No, thanks
The texts went back and forth for awhile. Like I said, this stupid john could not take "NO!" for an answer. I got rid of him by saying - Next Sunday, k?
The next day he sent me a request, asking me to shave my stuff and send him a picture my most private and sacred body part, completely exposed. Of course, I said - "NO!" Jeez, this dude's a stupid dildo!
Today, Thursday, I saw him over at the site where we met. I sent him an email - I'm so glad to see you here. It's good that you realize that we have nothing to offer each other. Good luck with seeking the girl of your dreams.
He sent me a text - Why do you keep blowing me off? You're so mean!
I sent one back - It's not mean for a woman to demand respect. This is why you keep ending up divorced. Your exes were just mean, right? BAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!
It took him awhile, but he came back with - You should be a little more specific next time. (I guess he was talking about my profile.)
So, I texted him back - I sent you a link to my site. How much more specific can I be?
And the grand finale! He sends his last text to me - Leave me alone! Lose my number.
Of course, I had to get in the last word. I said - Ditto
Hallelujah! and Praise the Lord! Salvation is finally mine.
Wednesday, July 14, 2010
What Day Is It?
Snagging a sugar daddy in seven days will probably take somewhere between twenty and forty hours of work. You can definitely do this while working your full time job, but you have to manage your time wisely.
There are those who work irratic schedules, over 100 hours in a week, night shift AND day shift, all at the same time. To those very hard working ladies who are basically slaves to this society - I commend you! You are most deserving of finding the most wonderful sugar daddy, and you will. It just might take you a little longer than seven days. Give yourself a break and set your goal at a couple of months, and most importantly - Don't give up!
To those with the regular nine-to-five, Monday-thru-Friday, here's the schedule:
Saturday: Build your web site and your profiles
Sunday: Send out 100 "Hey Daddy!"s
Monday - Friday: Fashion and Cosmetics, while emailing with your potential sugar daddies
This is about snagging a sugar daddy in seven days, but do not go out with anyone on the seventh day. Follow God's example and take a rest. You've already put in the extra hours for this project. You are going to be too worn out to go out with a stranger and make a good first impression.
Anyone guy that pressures you to go out with him before emailing for at least two weeks is a john, remember?
There are those who work irratic schedules, over 100 hours in a week, night shift AND day shift, all at the same time. To those very hard working ladies who are basically slaves to this society - I commend you! You are most deserving of finding the most wonderful sugar daddy, and you will. It just might take you a little longer than seven days. Give yourself a break and set your goal at a couple of months, and most importantly - Don't give up!
To those with the regular nine-to-five, Monday-thru-Friday, here's the schedule:
Saturday: Build your web site and your profiles
Sunday: Send out 100 "Hey Daddy!"s
Monday - Friday: Fashion and Cosmetics, while emailing with your potential sugar daddies
This is about snagging a sugar daddy in seven days, but do not go out with anyone on the seventh day. Follow God's example and take a rest. You've already put in the extra hours for this project. You are going to be too worn out to go out with a stranger and make a good first impression.
Anyone guy that pressures you to go out with him before emailing for at least two weeks is a john, remember?
Get 'Em!
You made a web site, maybe a blog, and have posted a couple of profiles out in SugarLand. Now what? Go get 'em, grrls!
The more pro-active you are in any project, the better your results will be. So, how do you take action to snag your sugar daddy? You continue to use the internet tools that are out there, the ones you signed up for when you created your profiles.
The sugar dating sites have applications where you can search for a daddy who suits your requirements. You can search based on location, age, income, marital status, and all the other information that was requested of the gentlemen when they placed their profiles.
This is all about playing the numbers. Even when you narrow down your choices to those who suit your standard, you are not going know if you click until you meet in person.
It's the 10% of 10% rule, which equals 1%. That means you will have to attempt to contact at least 100 gentlemen before you find the one of your dreams.
Unfortunately, after you've narrowed down your choices, you may have less than 100 potential sugar daddies to choose from. Don't worry. there are new people joining the site all day, everyday. So, after you have sent out all of your, what I like to call, "Hey Daddy!"s, switch to checking out the new members when you first log on to the site.
Don't waste your time with inactive members. Their profiles will tell you when the last time they logged in. I do not go back more than six months, but you will generally find that if they haven't been around in the last couple of weeks, they won't be around in the future. But there are those who are on and off the site every few months. They find short term companions and when that baby moves on with her life, they jump back on the site.
I recommend sending 50 "Hey Daddy"s out the day you sign up, at each site. That puts 100 requests for attention out there, so the odds are that you will find who you are looking for the first day. That is how to snag a sugar daddy in seven days. Play the odds.
The more pro-active you are in any project, the better your results will be. So, how do you take action to snag your sugar daddy? You continue to use the internet tools that are out there, the ones you signed up for when you created your profiles.
The sugar dating sites have applications where you can search for a daddy who suits your requirements. You can search based on location, age, income, marital status, and all the other information that was requested of the gentlemen when they placed their profiles.
This is all about playing the numbers. Even when you narrow down your choices to those who suit your standard, you are not going know if you click until you meet in person.
It's the 10% of 10% rule, which equals 1%. That means you will have to attempt to contact at least 100 gentlemen before you find the one of your dreams.
Unfortunately, after you've narrowed down your choices, you may have less than 100 potential sugar daddies to choose from. Don't worry. there are new people joining the site all day, everyday. So, after you have sent out all of your, what I like to call, "Hey Daddy!"s, switch to checking out the new members when you first log on to the site.
Don't waste your time with inactive members. Their profiles will tell you when the last time they logged in. I do not go back more than six months, but you will generally find that if they haven't been around in the last couple of weeks, they won't be around in the future. But there are those who are on and off the site every few months. They find short term companions and when that baby moves on with her life, they jump back on the site.
I recommend sending 50 "Hey Daddy"s out the day you sign up, at each site. That puts 100 requests for attention out there, so the odds are that you will find who you are looking for the first day. That is how to snag a sugar daddy in seven days. Play the odds.
Tuesday, July 13, 2010
Text, Not Sext
The headline for your profile is the next matter of importance. This is where you show your personality. Be original. "Looking For Love" will only get the attention of those who are bulk mailing everyone on the site. A good sugar daddy is not that desperate.
Think of your favorite musician and use one of their lyrics. For example, "Our 1st kiss will go a lil' like this....." This will give the potential sugar daddy a key to your personality. Even if they don't recognize it, a pop lyric is a catchy phrase. It worked for the artist who came up with it and it will work for you.
If you are anti-music, you can just express something unique about yourself, like "Anti-Musician Here", or "I Like Collecting Pinecones - Do You?". Your headline is what is going to make you stand out. There are a lot of pretty faces out there. What makes yours unique? Your personality. Put it in your headline.
Now you are going to need to write a couple of paragraphs. The first one is going to describe you. The second one is going to describe what you are looking for in a sugar daddy. Keep these paragraphs as short and sweet as possible. Just get to the point.
I like to quote my favorite inspirational speakers when describing myself. This connects me to the sugar daddies that can relate to my spiritual personality. You can look up famous quotes about love or fun online and pick one that was said by someone you admire.
When wrting the paragraph, hit 'enter' twice after each sentence. These spaces are going to make it much easier to read.
Mention specific interests. Everyone loves to travel and explore ethnic cuisine. Type something about the gypsies in Spain or how you make the best lasagne. This is specifically about you and it is meant to weed out those with whom you have nothing in common.
NEVER mention sex in your profile. This CLEARLY states that you are a prostitute. Every sugar baby has sex to offer. This does not make you unique.
Sadly, there are women out there who actually believe it when their lover says - You give the best ----. It's not true. They say that to all the women who give them ---- so that they ensure more ---- in the future.
"I give the best ----" is what prostitutes say to collect johns. Please do not be naive enough to think that this is what you have to offer a sugar daddy. All the sugar babies are giving the best ---- and you are not special in this way.
The second paragraph, about what you are seeking, is where you might want to put something like "ltr", "fwb", or "nsa", depending on your preference. And if one of those acronyms actually describes you, then that's really all you have to say. Remember, keep it short and sweet.
If you are looking for something that is a little more than an acronym, you still need to be as brief and specific as possible. Something like "Looking for a short term companion. The only string attached is discretion".
The profile is just the fishing pole. It is not an opportunity to tell your life story. If you have a lot of information to share, put it on your blog, which is linked to your web site. All of that is for reeling the fish in once it has been caught. The profile is the act of casting the rod.
There is a sugar dating site that has a required section to fill out about your allowance. This is a wonderful weeding tool, just like a hoe. ; ) What you put here is very important.
The allowance is where the line is drawn between sugar daddy and john. An allowance is what your sugar daddy is going to give you to cover your monthly expenses. If you want to attract a wealthy sugar daddy, put an allowance of over $5000. If you are happy with a middle class daddy, keep it under $3000. Leaving it "negotiable" may attract johns.
The sugar daddies at this site also have the "budget" option. Anyone who is working with a budget of less than $1000 is a john. The only American households that are maintaining themselves at an income of less than $1000 are those who live in poverty. These johns are preying on welfare moms.
A lot of sugar babies are single mothers who need financial help because they have been abandoned without child support. Churches are there to help if the rent is not getting paid. A sugar daddy is going to help his baby get out of poverty by giving her a $3000 allowance. Having a regular john might get the rent paid, but it will not get you anywhere beyond that. So, just go to church and keep praying that a real sugar daddy comes your way.
Think of your favorite musician and use one of their lyrics. For example, "Our 1st kiss will go a lil' like this....." This will give the potential sugar daddy a key to your personality. Even if they don't recognize it, a pop lyric is a catchy phrase. It worked for the artist who came up with it and it will work for you.
If you are anti-music, you can just express something unique about yourself, like "Anti-Musician Here", or "I Like Collecting Pinecones - Do You?". Your headline is what is going to make you stand out. There are a lot of pretty faces out there. What makes yours unique? Your personality. Put it in your headline.
Now you are going to need to write a couple of paragraphs. The first one is going to describe you. The second one is going to describe what you are looking for in a sugar daddy. Keep these paragraphs as short and sweet as possible. Just get to the point.
I like to quote my favorite inspirational speakers when describing myself. This connects me to the sugar daddies that can relate to my spiritual personality. You can look up famous quotes about love or fun online and pick one that was said by someone you admire.
When wrting the paragraph, hit 'enter' twice after each sentence. These spaces are going to make it much easier to read.
Mention specific interests. Everyone loves to travel and explore ethnic cuisine. Type something about the gypsies in Spain or how you make the best lasagne. This is specifically about you and it is meant to weed out those with whom you have nothing in common.
NEVER mention sex in your profile. This CLEARLY states that you are a prostitute. Every sugar baby has sex to offer. This does not make you unique.
Sadly, there are women out there who actually believe it when their lover says - You give the best ----. It's not true. They say that to all the women who give them ---- so that they ensure more ---- in the future.
"I give the best ----" is what prostitutes say to collect johns. Please do not be naive enough to think that this is what you have to offer a sugar daddy. All the sugar babies are giving the best ---- and you are not special in this way.
The second paragraph, about what you are seeking, is where you might want to put something like "ltr", "fwb", or "nsa", depending on your preference. And if one of those acronyms actually describes you, then that's really all you have to say. Remember, keep it short and sweet.
If you are looking for something that is a little more than an acronym, you still need to be as brief and specific as possible. Something like "Looking for a short term companion. The only string attached is discretion".
The profile is just the fishing pole. It is not an opportunity to tell your life story. If you have a lot of information to share, put it on your blog, which is linked to your web site. All of that is for reeling the fish in once it has been caught. The profile is the act of casting the rod.
There is a sugar dating site that has a required section to fill out about your allowance. This is a wonderful weeding tool, just like a hoe. ; ) What you put here is very important.
The allowance is where the line is drawn between sugar daddy and john. An allowance is what your sugar daddy is going to give you to cover your monthly expenses. If you want to attract a wealthy sugar daddy, put an allowance of over $5000. If you are happy with a middle class daddy, keep it under $3000. Leaving it "negotiable" may attract johns.
The sugar daddies at this site also have the "budget" option. Anyone who is working with a budget of less than $1000 is a john. The only American households that are maintaining themselves at an income of less than $1000 are those who live in poverty. These johns are preying on welfare moms.
A lot of sugar babies are single mothers who need financial help because they have been abandoned without child support. Churches are there to help if the rent is not getting paid. A sugar daddy is going to help his baby get out of poverty by giving her a $3000 allowance. Having a regular john might get the rent paid, but it will not get you anywhere beyond that. So, just go to church and keep praying that a real sugar daddy comes your way.
A Picture Paints A Thousand Words
Online dating sites make building a profile very easy. All you have to do is sign up for the site and follow instructions. Each site has specific guidelines, but there are a few general rules that are pretty universal to all online dating sites.
The main photograph is the most important. This is what pops up when others are searching and it is the immediate first impression. Use a picture that shows your face. It is important to protect your identity, so do something clever.
A lot of sites recommend blurring the shot a little bit, or putting a black bar across your eyes. These are excellent ideas. You can also crop your picture to show just your eyes, or half of your face. You can paint your face like a leopard or something. Whatever you do, make sure that picture shows a very fun side of you.
Smiling is another good recommendation, but one that I do not follow. I like to present myself as more of a seductress, so I use a picture that says, "You know you want it. Are you up for the challenge?" It's all in the eyes, the window to the soul.
I'm not an easy piece, so I make that clear in my profile. The picture I use says that from the start. Those that use the bright smile say, "I am the lonely girl-next-door type." That's great, because that is what a lot of sugar daddies are seeking.
Whoever you are, make sure it is expressed in this picture. Potential sugar daddies are using these pictures (not the profiles) to connect with their type of lady. The main photograph always comes first when making this first impression.
That is exactly what these profiles are - the first impression. There is no way to get around that reality. This is the greatest opportunity you will get when you put your mind towards snagging a sugar daddy. Be very careful not to blow it.
You will be able to post more pictures on your profile. Limit yourself to two (three total, including the main one). More than that is pointless and distracting. Think about what you have to offer your sugar daddy and display it in these two pictures.
Do you have nice curves? Post a picture of you in a bikini. If you have a great ass, then turn around, bend over and take a pic from that view. Beautiful feet? You get the idea.
If your body is unique, but not considered attractive to the average man, do not worry. "To each their own" is the phrase that sums up God's mating plan. There will always be men who will be attracted to you physically, no matter what you look like. And, besides - You are not here to attract the average man. You are here to attract the super sexy, perfect sugar daddy for ~YOU~.
This is all about ~YOU~ and don't ever forget it. This is not about the men. Women are in control of all men/women relationships, unless you choose to be a slave to a master in a DOM/sub agreement.
Men are visual creatures, so these pictures make it really easy for them to know that what they see is what they get. The pictures are there to represent what you look like physically, and that is all. They are not there to show off what kind of car you drive or your love of your pet schit-poo. If you do not want to show off your body, do not post any more pictures besides the main one.
Above all, the main idea expressed in the pictures should be - FUN, FUN, FUN! Keep in mind that you are competing with others and the one thing that every single sugar daddy is seeking is a good time.
Overweight FUN women are going to get picked over the plastic, stoic "do not touch me" model types, every single time. So, keep it light and fluffy, but most importantly, FUN!
The main photograph is the most important. This is what pops up when others are searching and it is the immediate first impression. Use a picture that shows your face. It is important to protect your identity, so do something clever.
A lot of sites recommend blurring the shot a little bit, or putting a black bar across your eyes. These are excellent ideas. You can also crop your picture to show just your eyes, or half of your face. You can paint your face like a leopard or something. Whatever you do, make sure that picture shows a very fun side of you.
Smiling is another good recommendation, but one that I do not follow. I like to present myself as more of a seductress, so I use a picture that says, "You know you want it. Are you up for the challenge?" It's all in the eyes, the window to the soul.
I'm not an easy piece, so I make that clear in my profile. The picture I use says that from the start. Those that use the bright smile say, "I am the lonely girl-next-door type." That's great, because that is what a lot of sugar daddies are seeking.
Whoever you are, make sure it is expressed in this picture. Potential sugar daddies are using these pictures (not the profiles) to connect with their type of lady. The main photograph always comes first when making this first impression.
That is exactly what these profiles are - the first impression. There is no way to get around that reality. This is the greatest opportunity you will get when you put your mind towards snagging a sugar daddy. Be very careful not to blow it.
You will be able to post more pictures on your profile. Limit yourself to two (three total, including the main one). More than that is pointless and distracting. Think about what you have to offer your sugar daddy and display it in these two pictures.
Do you have nice curves? Post a picture of you in a bikini. If you have a great ass, then turn around, bend over and take a pic from that view. Beautiful feet? You get the idea.
If your body is unique, but not considered attractive to the average man, do not worry. "To each their own" is the phrase that sums up God's mating plan. There will always be men who will be attracted to you physically, no matter what you look like. And, besides - You are not here to attract the average man. You are here to attract the super sexy, perfect sugar daddy for ~YOU~.
This is all about ~YOU~ and don't ever forget it. This is not about the men. Women are in control of all men/women relationships, unless you choose to be a slave to a master in a DOM/sub agreement.
Men are visual creatures, so these pictures make it really easy for them to know that what they see is what they get. The pictures are there to represent what you look like physically, and that is all. They are not there to show off what kind of car you drive or your love of your pet schit-poo. If you do not want to show off your body, do not post any more pictures besides the main one.
Above all, the main idea expressed in the pictures should be - FUN, FUN, FUN! Keep in mind that you are competing with others and the one thing that every single sugar daddy is seeking is a good time.
Overweight FUN women are going to get picked over the plastic, stoic "do not touch me" model types, every single time. So, keep it light and fluffy, but most importantly, FUN!
Fishing For Love - Intro To Building a Profile
Online dating is like fishing. The typical way to catch a fish is with a fishing pole. You can certainly catch a fish without using a pole, and you can definitely meet people online without a profile. But if you are serious about snagging a sugar daddy in seven days, create a profile.
Creating a profile is even easier than building a web site, especially now that you have a web site to use as a foundation. Even if you never actually refer someone to your site, you have the experience of collecting your thoughts about this topic.
You can use your web site purely as your private notes or as a daily affirmation about your purpose. You can use your web site for whatever purposes suit your needs. It's your web site. It's all yours. Isn't that awesome?
You need to decide where you are going to post your profile, because that is where you will build it. Put "sugar dating site" into a search engine and choose both the first and second sites on the results list. These are the most popular sites for this purpose.
Putting your profile out in a couple of places gives you twice as many options. And just because it is the most popular site about this topic, that doesn't mean that it is the most active for this specific purpose. It could be a popular sugar site because people are just blah, blah, blogging there all day. See how blogging works?
But even though people are blogging there all day, that doesn't mean that the site is worthless. Just remember your reason for being there - to snag a sugar daddy, not to chat about psych meds or whatever randomly gets mentioned on the blog.
My advice - Don't even waste your time with the blog. You have your own site where you can blog with the one person who knows you the best - yourself. Do not allow know-it-all strangers to distract you. These people are very likely under the age of 30, without much experience. They are lonely and they are just seeking attention, not sugar daddies.
In fact, they are probably the same old "no drama! no baggage!" losers from the typical sites who never even leave their homes. Who even knows what gender or age they are, or if they have even lost their virginities. These are strangers. That's all you know. And they exist to help the site make it to the top of the list when topics are put into a search engine. That is their only purpose.
I mean, if you are fishing, are you going to cast your rod into the lake or into a mud puddle?
Creating a profile is even easier than building a web site, especially now that you have a web site to use as a foundation. Even if you never actually refer someone to your site, you have the experience of collecting your thoughts about this topic.
You can use your web site purely as your private notes or as a daily affirmation about your purpose. You can use your web site for whatever purposes suit your needs. It's your web site. It's all yours. Isn't that awesome?
You need to decide where you are going to post your profile, because that is where you will build it. Put "sugar dating site" into a search engine and choose both the first and second sites on the results list. These are the most popular sites for this purpose.
Putting your profile out in a couple of places gives you twice as many options. And just because it is the most popular site about this topic, that doesn't mean that it is the most active for this specific purpose. It could be a popular sugar site because people are just blah, blah, blogging there all day. See how blogging works?
But even though people are blogging there all day, that doesn't mean that the site is worthless. Just remember your reason for being there - to snag a sugar daddy, not to chat about psych meds or whatever randomly gets mentioned on the blog.
My advice - Don't even waste your time with the blog. You have your own site where you can blog with the one person who knows you the best - yourself. Do not allow know-it-all strangers to distract you. These people are very likely under the age of 30, without much experience. They are lonely and they are just seeking attention, not sugar daddies.
In fact, they are probably the same old "no drama! no baggage!" losers from the typical sites who never even leave their homes. Who even knows what gender or age they are, or if they have even lost their virginities. These are strangers. That's all you know. And they exist to help the site make it to the top of the list when topics are put into a search engine. That is their only purpose.
I mean, if you are fishing, are you going to cast your rod into the lake or into a mud puddle?
Monday, July 12, 2010
Blah, Blah, Blogging
Blogs are another great internet tool. Unfortunately, most people misunderstand the purpose of a blog, so in most cases it winds up being a toy for adults. That's fine because there are huge "blog communities" out there, like Facebook, which unite people and cheer them up on a cloudy day. And that is the most ultimate purpose the internet serves.
Most of the things you see on the internet are considered blogs, like when you go to MTV.com or something. All of the daily news stories that allow comments are actually blogs. If you go to my site:
www.bonnie-angelstouch.webs.com
And click through 'Be Healed', you will find where I blog.
The purpose of a blog is to keep your site as active as possible, to get as many 'hits' as you can. And why would you have to do this? Web presence.
Why is this known as the most popular place to blog? Because so many people are blogging here all day. It is the most popular because it literally is the most popular. That is how the internet works.
So, all of the major sites are posting articles and leaving it open to comment to get as much action as possible. It doesn't matter what blah, blah, blah comes out of the peanut stand, as long as it goes on for at least 300 replies within 48 hours. And that is really the bare minimum for these blah, blah, blah blogs. There will be those who get over 1000 comments within the first hour . Now, there's a successful blog!
I do not recommend creating a blog for the purpose of snagging a sugar daddy. You can definitely create one to enhance your site, by making it one of your links. Blogs are a great way to talk about your interests and hobbies. But if your interest or hobby is to be a complete golddigger or collecting information on Aileen Wuornos and Charles Manson, I would not recommend linking it to your site. Always keep the site light, fluffy and fun. Create a blog about candymaking or something.
Most of the things you see on the internet are considered blogs, like when you go to MTV.com or something. All of the daily news stories that allow comments are actually blogs. If you go to my site:
www.bonnie-angelstouch.webs.com
And click through 'Be Healed', you will find where I blog.
The purpose of a blog is to keep your site as active as possible, to get as many 'hits' as you can. And why would you have to do this? Web presence.
Why is this known as the most popular place to blog? Because so many people are blogging here all day. It is the most popular because it literally is the most popular. That is how the internet works.
So, all of the major sites are posting articles and leaving it open to comment to get as much action as possible. It doesn't matter what blah, blah, blah comes out of the peanut stand, as long as it goes on for at least 300 replies within 48 hours. And that is really the bare minimum for these blah, blah, blah blogs. There will be those who get over 1000 comments within the first hour . Now, there's a successful blog!
I do not recommend creating a blog for the purpose of snagging a sugar daddy. You can definitely create one to enhance your site, by making it one of your links. Blogs are a great way to talk about your interests and hobbies. But if your interest or hobby is to be a complete golddigger or collecting information on Aileen Wuornos and Charles Manson, I would not recommend linking it to your site. Always keep the site light, fluffy and fun. Create a blog about candymaking or something.
How To Snag A SugarDaddy In Seven Days
I am writing the book on how to snag a sugar daddy in seven days. The first chapter is about creating a web presence. The first step to having a presence is to build a site. Here is the site I built for myself:
www.bestsugarbaby.webs.com
Buildng a web site is extremely easy and anyone can do it. The first step is to put "free web site" into a search engine. The best option to work with will be the first one on the results list.
Once you are at the web site building site, there will be expilicit instructions on how to build the site. Basically, you just fill in the blanks by pointing and clicking.
Choose a domain name that promotes you as a sugar baby. Think about what makes you unique and combine that with the word "sugarbaby".
A web site is an online business card. View your dating life as your business, because that is literally what it is - your business, no one else's.
Find pictures of sexy pin up girls and romantic couples to put on your site. Describe your appearance, but do not post actual pictures of yourself. Anyone going to your site will have already seen the pictures from your profile. Make your web site represent your fantasies, as opposed to reality. But always be honest.
Be sure there is a way to contact you through your site. If you are comfortable putting your phone number on it, do it. You honestly have nothing to lose and everything to gain. This is an online business card. Make it efficient.
In terms of efficiency, keep the site clean and simple. A few pages covers everything. If you are excited about your interests and you have a ton of information to share, build another site for that and link it to your sugar baby site.
And now, you have a web presence. You knocked on the door when you decided to read this book. Creating a web site opens the door. Now you are ready to step in the world of sugar dating!
www.bestsugarbaby.webs.com
Buildng a web site is extremely easy and anyone can do it. The first step is to put "free web site" into a search engine. The best option to work with will be the first one on the results list.
Once you are at the web site building site, there will be expilicit instructions on how to build the site. Basically, you just fill in the blanks by pointing and clicking.
Choose a domain name that promotes you as a sugar baby. Think about what makes you unique and combine that with the word "sugarbaby".
A web site is an online business card. View your dating life as your business, because that is literally what it is - your business, no one else's.
Find pictures of sexy pin up girls and romantic couples to put on your site. Describe your appearance, but do not post actual pictures of yourself. Anyone going to your site will have already seen the pictures from your profile. Make your web site represent your fantasies, as opposed to reality. But always be honest.
Be sure there is a way to contact you through your site. If you are comfortable putting your phone number on it, do it. You honestly have nothing to lose and everything to gain. This is an online business card. Make it efficient.
In terms of efficiency, keep the site clean and simple. A few pages covers everything. If you are excited about your interests and you have a ton of information to share, build another site for that and link it to your sugar baby site.
And now, you have a web presence. You knocked on the door when you decided to read this book. Creating a web site opens the door. Now you are ready to step in the world of sugar dating!
Sunday, July 11, 2010
How To Identify A John
American men are generally known, around the world, as being the scum of the earth. As an American woman I have had countless experiences that have proven this to be true, especially with online dating.
For those who have just entered the online dating world, it is extremely easy to end up in a situation that could lead to losing custody of your children - when you weren't even doing anything wrong! You just accepted a date with the wrong person.
I have come up with the following tips to help the ladies avoid the johns, otherwise known as jerks.
1. From the first email, they seem too good to be true. A first email should read - Hi! How are you? not - I'm going to give you the stars and the moon and a car and blah, blah, blah.....
Take time to get to know each other. ***Exchange emails for a least two weeks.*** Taking time to exchange emails GUARANTEES that this is not a john (or the police!).
2. Mentioning sex before you meet in person OR even on the first date. This is obviously someone who wants sex. Doesn't everyone? But to talk about your most intimate desires with a stranger proves that you are desperate and probably very willing to pay for this desire. Gross!
3. The guy insists that the lady comes to him. Who does he think you are, a callgirl? (yes) The gentleman always comes to the lady. It is definitely a bad idea to have a stranger come to your home, so pick the nicest restaurant in ~your~ hometown and meet him there. If he is not willing to take you to the nicest place to town to make a good first impression, don't waste your time with him.
4. Don't invite him back to your place or go anywhere alone with him. You just met. There will be plenty of time for that once the relationship develops. Any pressure for some alone time on a first date makes one thing clear - JOHN!
Dating is all about romance. What is more romantic than a first kiss? Why is it so romantic? Because of the anticipation factor - You have thought about it for days, weeks, months, years.....Don't blow your big moment by kissing on the first date.
A first date kiss is not always a bad thing. Lots of beginnings are like that, so don't blow this advice off just because you have had good experiences with first date kisses.
In my experience, when a man I just met moves in that quickly I knew that it was going to be over before it started. And they ALWAYS shove their tongue down your throat and grope at you. Gross, again!
Another warning to heed - No alcohol on the first date.
Follow this advice and you will avoid 99% of the johns out there. Best of luck to all in their online dating adventures. I hope everyone is blessed with a happy connection!
For those who have just entered the online dating world, it is extremely easy to end up in a situation that could lead to losing custody of your children - when you weren't even doing anything wrong! You just accepted a date with the wrong person.
I have come up with the following tips to help the ladies avoid the johns, otherwise known as jerks.
1. From the first email, they seem too good to be true. A first email should read - Hi! How are you? not - I'm going to give you the stars and the moon and a car and blah, blah, blah.....
Take time to get to know each other. ***Exchange emails for a least two weeks.*** Taking time to exchange emails GUARANTEES that this is not a john (or the police!).
2. Mentioning sex before you meet in person OR even on the first date. This is obviously someone who wants sex. Doesn't everyone? But to talk about your most intimate desires with a stranger proves that you are desperate and probably very willing to pay for this desire. Gross!
3. The guy insists that the lady comes to him. Who does he think you are, a callgirl? (yes) The gentleman always comes to the lady. It is definitely a bad idea to have a stranger come to your home, so pick the nicest restaurant in ~your~ hometown and meet him there. If he is not willing to take you to the nicest place to town to make a good first impression, don't waste your time with him.
4. Don't invite him back to your place or go anywhere alone with him. You just met. There will be plenty of time for that once the relationship develops. Any pressure for some alone time on a first date makes one thing clear - JOHN!
Dating is all about romance. What is more romantic than a first kiss? Why is it so romantic? Because of the anticipation factor - You have thought about it for days, weeks, months, years.....Don't blow your big moment by kissing on the first date.
A first date kiss is not always a bad thing. Lots of beginnings are like that, so don't blow this advice off just because you have had good experiences with first date kisses.
In my experience, when a man I just met moves in that quickly I knew that it was going to be over before it started. And they ALWAYS shove their tongue down your throat and grope at you. Gross, again!
Another warning to heed - No alcohol on the first date.
Follow this advice and you will avoid 99% of the johns out there. Best of luck to all in their online dating adventures. I hope everyone is blessed with a happy connection!
All About Online Dating Sites
I have been using the internet to pursue relationships with gentlemen on and off since 1999. I have experience with almost every site that offers free profiles. I refuse to pay a fee to meet men, considering the reality that I meet men for free all day, every day.
On the other hand, when a guy is posting profiles for free, it is a huge red flag. Relationships, like everything else in the material world, cost money. A good man is going to spend his good money to meet a good woman.
This being said, I have discovered what is known as SugarLand. These are the "sugardaddy" dating sites, the ones that are being promoted through shows like Tyra.
"But Tyra is against these types of relationships!" you may say.....
Is she really? Or is she just going after ratings? It doesn't matter. The point is - Shows like hers expose these sites and create more traffic to them. I know that she is perfectly aware of this result, so it makes me wonder what her true opinion or motivation actually is.
I wonder for about two seconds, but it leads me to forget what I am thinking about......oh, yeah! Online dating sites, particularly ones promoting what is called an "arrangement".
What is an arrangement? It is an agreement between a man and a woman about catering to each others desires. This used to be called a "relationship".
I discovered this form of online dating in May. After 10 years of meeting gentlemen at other sites, I became disgusted with how American men degrade themselves by being johns. Since when has it been OK to offer a stranger money for intimacy? It's really not acceptable. In fact, it is illegal.
I have met four guys through the profile I have on the sugardaddy site. All four of them turned out to be johns. I just used them for the free dinner.
I have learned a lot about screening out johns. That will be the topic of my next blog.
Thank you for taking the time to read this.
Namaste
On the other hand, when a guy is posting profiles for free, it is a huge red flag. Relationships, like everything else in the material world, cost money. A good man is going to spend his good money to meet a good woman.
This being said, I have discovered what is known as SugarLand. These are the "sugardaddy" dating sites, the ones that are being promoted through shows like Tyra.
"But Tyra is against these types of relationships!" you may say.....
Is she really? Or is she just going after ratings? It doesn't matter. The point is - Shows like hers expose these sites and create more traffic to them. I know that she is perfectly aware of this result, so it makes me wonder what her true opinion or motivation actually is.
I wonder for about two seconds, but it leads me to forget what I am thinking about......oh, yeah! Online dating sites, particularly ones promoting what is called an "arrangement".
What is an arrangement? It is an agreement between a man and a woman about catering to each others desires. This used to be called a "relationship".
I discovered this form of online dating in May. After 10 years of meeting gentlemen at other sites, I became disgusted with how American men degrade themselves by being johns. Since when has it been OK to offer a stranger money for intimacy? It's really not acceptable. In fact, it is illegal.
I have met four guys through the profile I have on the sugardaddy site. All four of them turned out to be johns. I just used them for the free dinner.
I have learned a lot about screening out johns. That will be the topic of my next blog.
Thank you for taking the time to read this.
Namaste
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